Wardrobe Challenge: 1Dress1Week – day 4

Welcome to day 4 of my Wear 1 Dress for a Week challenge. Here’s Day 1, day 2, and day 3!

Thoughts on yesterday:

Yesterday’s outfit was great. I wouldn’t mind finding better leg coverings but overall it was a great outfit and rather flexible for jewelry and shoes. Will be wearing again!

Today’s Outfit:


  • Boots: Current Mood via Dollskill
  • Shirt: Gifted to me/hand me down
  • Collar: from LucidArray
  • Socks: Obey via Dollskill

I had a rough day today. I was cramping pretty bad and got all dopey on painkillers so this is as good as today’s photo gets. Luckily I already had this in mind because of this outfit I’ve been wearing recently. I don’t think today’s outfit was quite as cute as the original but I’m wondering if some galaxy print socks or tights will do the job. I do like to cover my legs so I’ll do some shopping around.

In the original outfit, I’m wearing a matching crop top you can’t see, that came with the skirt, as a set. I could ditch those in favor of socks or tights and simplify things a teeny bit. But they’re still new and completely wearable and I still like them.

Anyway, this was probably one of the most comfortable outfits I’ve ever worn, ever.



Wardrobe Challenge: 1dress1week – day 3

Welcome to day 3 of my Wear 1 Dress for a Week challenge. Here’s Day 1 and day 2!

Thoughts on yesterday: 

I took a shower last night and decided to wash the dress at the same time (not while wearing it!). I used Dr Bronner’s and I think it went well enough. I hung it up and it was still ever so slightly damp this morning, but not unwearable.

I absolutely loved this outfit! It was fun and comfortable. The corset gets wonky after awhile so it’s not good for alllllll day wear but that’s fine. I feel like this is a very repeatable outfit.

Today’s Outfit:


  • Belt: Killstar
  • Hose: Target
  • Boots; Ironfist
  • Big Crystal Necklace: Amazon
  • Smaller Crystal Necklace: EmelyRoseBoutique

Y’all. I had a hard time doing today’s outfit. I wanted a witchy vibe so I tried REALLY hard to make use of a shirt with long drapey sleeves but it was just a liiiittle bit not right.  I also tried working with a pair of shorts I got for my birthday and loved the idea of but they’re not working out. So I put this together… which felt like cheating. It’s more Witch than yesterday’s Goth so it is a different look but I still feel like I cheated somehow.

Wardrobe Challenge: 1dress1week – day 2

Welcome to day 2 of my Wear 1 Dress for a Week challenge. Here’s Day 1!

Thoughts on yesterday: I’ve already been learning! Last night I realized I had another basic black dress that I liked less, so I put it in my donate pile. I also put 4 other dresses in my “maybe” box, and got rid of extra socks. One of the “maybe” dresses I may modify so it’s more comfortable.

My only complaint so far about this week’s dress is it’s a little too bold for me to wear without a bra. Near the end of the day I found a red tube top and put that on underneath. MUCH better!

Before deciding on this challenge I was thinking about doing the 333 thing – 33 items of clothing for 3 months. I counted my dresses, cover ups, tops, bottoms, leggings, and shoes and I think I got 44. That’s not bad! That’s just warmer weather wear, not counting my special lolita clothes.

Will I repeat day 1’s outfit? When I’m feeling extra lazy or sick or just want to be super simple, sure.

So anyway, here is today’s outfit:

  • Shirt: eBay
  • Corset: Dollskill
  • Shoes: Thrifted Demonia
  • Collar: Etsy
  • Necklace, Fishnet: Amazon

What a dramatic step up from yesterday! This is the first time I’ve worn this outfit. It didn’t come together for me until the corset. I LOVE THAT THING. It’s the weirdest, funnest thing I’ve owned.


Wardrobe Challenge: one dress, one week – day 1

Last night I was inspired by a ton of different people to do some minimalist wardrobe challenges. I think it would be really fun to do, provide a learning experience, and maybe motivate me to minimize even more. It will be really interesting to see how I can still rock my gothic and alternative vibes.

I decided I’d wear the same dress for one week. It’s really hot here in our SoCal apartment and that’s where I spend all my time so I picked my lightest, simplest dress. I got it from a swanky secondhand store in West Hollywood a couple years ago.


sorry for all the bland indoor photos

If even one person gets inspiration from me on how to style a black slip dress then I will call this a success.

So here’s what I did for day 1:

  • Dress: Thrifted
  • Shoes: Hot Chocolate
  • Crystal Necklace: EmlyRoseBoutique
  • Other necklace: Restyle
  • Makeup: None but I really wanted to put on some mascara and vampy lipstick.



What’s in my Bag #3: minimalist +options edition


Last week I put together a minimalist wallet. What I wanted was something compact, no extra trimmings, easy to grab, minimal. The only thing I could find in my possession was a mini tin housing a tarot deck. I moved the deck into a little organza bag, and decorated the tin with a Kat von D flier, and some spooky washi tape. I loaded it up and have revised it twice since. Here’s what I’ve got as of today:

Option 1: Bare Minimum Wallet


Perfect for just running errands, going to the movies, anything where I’m not planning to just chill somewhere for awhile. I usually don’t have my phone when I just have this.

Tin Wallet Pros: Super lightweight. Pocket-friendly. Can’t get carried away packing things in there. Super minimalist.

Tin Wallet Cons: Hard to carry if you don’t have pockets. No room for entertainment/just-in-case items. It’s hard to find when I want to grab it real quick.

But.. what if I want to carry a little more with me? Like if I’m going to the bar, want to have my phone and some combination of Just-in-case-I’m-bored objects? Enter: my Heavy Red drawstring purse.

Option 2: Almost Bare Minimum


Bare Minimum tin, tarot deck, a book, (phone).

Drawstring bag pros: Easy and comfortable to carry. Compact, I can put it in a larger bag/purse. Gothic design.

Drawstring bag cons: This particular bag doesn’t have any pockets in it. If it did I’d probably ditch the tin, simply because it’s so much easier to carry. Doesn’t go with many of my outfits (jfc, do I really care?).

I love this thing. I got it during a special sale where if you spend X amount you get the purse loaded with goodies, all free. The goodies were awesome and I can’t see myself dumping the purse anytime soon but I’d certainly use it for other things.

But then we have my beloved black and white purse

Option 3: Moderately Minimum



Bag + it contents, a small crochet project, hand sanitizer I only used once, floss, yet another backup pad.


It’s a step or half a step roomier than my drawstring bag. I absolutely love it for its beauty and quality. I could stash the hand sanitizer and floss elsewhere.

Pros: Lovely sophisticated gothic look. Simple. Pockets. Works with most, if not all, of my outfits. Easy to hang up near the door.

Cons: It’s almost redundant. Sure it’s more useful than the bag because it has pockets but I don’t know. Seems unnecessary to have.

I could simplify by just using the bag for something completely different and only have my purse and backpack to choose from.


Last Thoughts

I’m not going to get into my backpack because I don’t think it really fits here. There’s something else going there that needs it’s own post.

Anyway, I’m fairly content with where I am as far as everyday carry items. It’s a bit weird for me because I don’t go out very often so in some ways it’s easier for me than an average person. But in some ways it’s harder.

I’m trying to figure out how to fit the Zero Waste lifestyle in with mine so I suspect I’ll soon be carrying some extra things: reusable food container for leftovers, a reusable straw, travel cutlery, reusable napkins, not sure what else. I’ll probably save those things for the backpack though.

My biggest problem is really stupid: figuring out what to bring when I go out. I’m about to head out to the coffee shop so I’m wondering… do I want to work on my laptop, or just bring a book? Maybe I should bring my backpack so I have all the options? A better, less-purse-addicted minimalist than me would probably just have the backpack.

Oh well. Nothing is set in stone. We’ll see what happens.

Simplifying, Minimizing, Organizing

For the past several months I’ve been trying to work on fixing up my life, or lack thereof. This is a long-winded post about my journey into something resembling minimalism.

TL;DR Grateful I was able to start from scratch but wish I had done it sooner. I still don’t have any major life goals and don’t care that I don’t, but getting into minimalism and planning has started leading to betterish feelings about life.


“But wait!” you may say. “You never leave the house. You don’t have a job. You only cook for yourself. You don’t do anything notable. What could you possibly have to simplify, minimize, and organize?”

That’s what I also asked myself when I wanted to get into BulletJournalling last year. All I really had to keep track of was what I was eating when I was trying to figure out if food was causing my lips to randomly swell (I think it was Advil, btw). But then I sort of started cleaning as a hobby. Then I wanted to schedule my chores. Eventually, I gave up the BuJo because I was so sick and tired of creating new spreads all the time and got a Happy Planner.


shhhh don’t tell the other goths

Most of what I’m planning is my chores and meal ideas and Notable Things That Happen Even if Rarely. I’m still fine tuning my chore schedule and how I use the space in the planner.

I decided I wanted my planner’s theme to be #KAWAIIAF. So I’ve been buying a variety of stickers to decorate with and try to find my planner groove. Having this theme is giving me such a fun, delightful little space to go to whenever I want. It’s a little bit of sunshine in my life that I didn’t know I needed. I’m also trying to create a space where I can experience seasons since I don’t get them much here in SoCal. Thank the virgin babyjesus for themed stickers.

This month I’ve been doing 2 tarot challenges over on my tarot IG and you’ll see I have been writing one of them down. I don’t know why, or if I’ll continue doing so. But I think it is a great idea to do a daily tarot card and to keep track of it, so at the very least I’ll go back to the tarot shorthand I was doing in my BuJo.

I’ve got a morning routine and a bedtime routine. I did poorly at keeping these up when I went from my BuJu, where I could easily track them, to my planner. When I have the list out and ready I get things done at a much higher rate than if I don’t have it. Must be related to the “out of sight out of mind” thing.

This week I’m going to see how it works to write them down for every. single. day. Because the habits tracker sticker on the side there is just “meh” for the job. I disliked writing out the entire list every week for my BuJo though so it may not go over so well.

I’ve got an extremely fancy and cute cover coming from Woodland Cottage Farm. It will be able to hold a lot of things so it’ll help me streamline my planner life.

I want to start trying to do my daily chores as soon as possible after waking up because I tend to just mope about online for several hours before doing anything else. Maybe if I get the Daily Chore done ASAP, maybe even before caffeine, I’ll be able to do more with the rest of my day because the way I have things queued up in my head is…. well that’s a post for another time.

Starting from Scratch

Around the same time I got my planner I started watching minimalist videos on YouTube. This reminded me of when I went all KonMarie on my clothes and art supplies before leaving New Orleans this last time around. I’ve been cozied up with a KonMarie mindset since then. I’m careful about what I buy and try to *toss stuff as soon as I recognize that I don’t need/want it. It really helped when bf and I moved here with just what we could carry.

So starting with a blank slate was nice. Sure we were sent some of our stuff here and there, as time and money allowed. But I’d try to be ruthless about what I kept from those boxes. I was extra ruthless when we went to visit for Christmas and I had a chance to confront my junk again. I’d say I culled half of our stuff but I’m not entirely sure. It’s mostly books and doll stuff (and nail polish) now.  I managed to bring back some clothes and most of my dolls on the trip back.

I don’t like being materialistic and I wish I had clicked with this minimalist mindset after getting this “fresh start”. It felt so freeing to be able to toss the same exact stuff that I was feeling anxious about not having with me. My thinking was “I spent so much money on X and it’s just sitting there rotting away!”.

And even more in hindsight: I would have felt so much better all this time if I didn’t have all that stuff to begin with.


My wardrobe is one of the things that I have been lucky enough to build from scratch. I try to keep a KonMarie filter on so that everything I buy is very much needed or desired. I buy all my clothes online so I had some duds and changes-of-heart.

I’m happy I decided to “go back to goth” around the time we moved so I had a theme to work towards. I have carefully built up around 20 complete (ready to wear from the hanger, no mix and match) outfits. Because I have learned that I really don’t like mixing and matching. I’m far less stressed when I don’t have to figure out what works with what.Sure it costs more in the long run, and it’s not at all minimalist, but damnit sometimes you have to pay for peace of mind.

I keep going through them every few days trying to decide if I should get rid of some things. I recently divided them into “Everyday Wear” and “Not-So-Everyday Wear”. That wasn’t quite right so I recently picked out about around 10 “LOVE THESE OUTFITS” outfits. And I have picked out one “Really Lazy Day” outfit.

The other outfits I have are very likable but I feel too guilty about getting rid of them because they cost money and they were so recently obtained. I’m terrible at selling and don’t know anybody in person I can gift/trade with so they would be completely wasted. So I’ll probably keep them until something else happens to them. Maybe I’ll have another mental shift that will let me let go of them or love them more.

Then I have an assortment of items that need to be worked into complete outfits. It would be a good idea if I just got rid of all of those. We’ll see what happens with them this month.


here, have an unhelpful photo. coats in the back, not-favorite outfits, favorite, then random peices.

Shoes: I have 5 pairs of shoes. 1 is my Fuck Me Now heels that everyone should have but I need to give them to a REALLY GOOD HOME, some quick slip-ons, stompy boots, bat boots, and platform mary janes. I would like at least 1 more pair of shoes which will keep me at 5 pairs if I ditch the heels, 4 if I don’t get the new ones that I certainly don’t need.


I love these boots. They go with a lot more outfits than I thought they would.

Jewelry: I had some random cheap shitty things I already got rid of. I have a jewelry box/floor mirror-in-one and have LOADS of room for more. But I’m going to be very choosy about what I get in the future.


Awhile back I started thinking about the hobbies that I’m currently capable of doing i.e. I have all or enough supplies/tools to do them. Can I minimize the number of hobbies I have, and thus stuff needed for those hobbies, while still feeling creatively fulfilled? So I have so many hobbies that I’m spread thin? Do I even want these hobbies? etc?

I started trying to keep track of them in my BuJo and then my planner. I didn’t do a good job of it but was just enough to start figuring things out. Spoiler alert: I wasn’t doing much. I’m a very depressed person so I figured it was just because of that.

This process highlighted an already obvious bit of knowledge: I spent most of my time watching YouTube/Netflix, browsing Reddit, and cleaning. When its spelled out like that it just sounds so depressing. So I wrote down one list of Non-Computer Centric hobbies and one for Computer-Centric. I only included one hobby that I can’t currently do because I lack the proper tool.

Then I decided I needed to figure out my excuses for why I don’t do these things much more often so I wrote a sentence or two about each thing. This helped me figure out the things most important to me. I ditched Journalling (regular, already quit Bullet), Canvas Art, and Art Book art (which will turn into just a junk/gluebook sort of thing) from my Non-Computer Centric list.

The Computer-Centric hobbies are a little weirder to deal with so many of them are in limbo while the rest are sticking around.

So this week I hope to toss out things related to the art hobbies.

Digital Life

A few weeks back I went through Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram to unfriend/unfollow/leave as many people and groups as possible. I ditched people I never talked to, only talked to once, etc. I also ditched people in some places but kept following them in other places because they post the same stuff to all their various accounts.

This is been one of the most amazing things I’ve ever done! I’ve done it on a small scale here and there before but doing it on a large scale was so nice. It’s amazing what intangible cleaning can do.

Last week I cleared out a bunch of e-mails and I’m constantly unsubscribing from stuff that I was somehow subscribed to. There’s only one thing I get updates from and I prefer keeping it like that.


I went vegan in Juneish of 2016. In a way I think that’s when I really kickstarted minimalizing. And now I’m trying to think of how I can simplify my diet while still keeping it (mostly) healthy.

I hate cooking and I hate eating, no matter how delicious the food is. It’s just such a fucking chore. If I can figure out how to make it less of a chore, that would be great. I do all my cooking with an Instant Pot so that helps a great deal. I’ve considered having a big meal prep day once a week or month but that would just take up so much energy, I don’t think I can do it.

I tried Soylent but it’s just so ugh. It’s gross and unsatisfying, even adding flavor to it. I can’t live like that.

I had a long love affair with a lentil curry dish from one of my cook books. Right now I’m in love with burgers with aoli and roasted red peppers. I sprinkle some other stuff in my diet but I seem to have 1 to 2 obsessions at a time. I guess that’s not a bad minimalist approach but I do want to see if I can do better.

Last Thoughts

I have been watching a lot more minimalizing videos these past couples weeks, trying to make sure I have all my bases covered. For example, I didn’t think to clear out my kitchen junk drawer until someone mentioned tossing appliance manuals.

I seem to have tackled everything I possibly could, which was easy due to not having much, but I “joined” Muchellb’s 30-day challenge just to see her list. I’m not following it day-to-day because there’s already so much I’ve done. This tells me I’ve done things right so far and I’m on the right track. This week I’m going to make sure it really is all done.

I may never be one of those people who can put all their possessions into one bag (I love too many dolls, tarot decks, having furniture, and you couldn’t pay me to give up my InstantPot), but I can sure make it a lot easier to deal with the next inevitable move. And I already feel betterish in general for not having much.

I expect some major cash savings now that I’m content with my wardrobe (seriously I’ve been buying clothes non-stop) and I need only a couple things for the kitchen. Maybe we’ll be able to buy that couch sometime this year! (hah… hhahaha…. omg I miss having a couch).



my beloved tarot and oracle collection. I plan on ditching the 2 outside the box.


So I guess that’s it for this particular ramble. I hope everyone is happy and stays safe out there.

*You will notice I talk a lot about tossing stuff in this post. I don’t mean I dumped each and everything in the trash. I gave 99% of my makeup and brushes to a friend who absolutely loves makeup and is 100x better at it than me. I gave away/donated and recycled/trashed all the appropriate things. 

OotD – gotta clean in something, might as well be this

To prove I’m still alive I figured I’d do an outfit pic. Ever since the Trump-ening I haven’t felt much like blogging or doing anything else. But today I needed an outfit to clean in (I’m behind on chores) so I figured I’d share it.

I’m pretty stoked about how this is looking. I’ll be wearing it quite a bit from now on! It could possibly use a fishnet shirt though.


Shirt: Some cheap shitty Souixie thing

I cut the hem off today. I keep thinking about turning it into a crop top though.

Dress: Dark in Love

This is a fun, really comfortable dress. It’s slinky and lacy and is super hi-low. You can’t quite tell in the pics though. I cut the sleeves off today before I hacked at Souixie.

Corset: Heavy Red

This is by far my favorite corset. I got it 2nd hand and it’s been one of my best purchases ever.

Leggings: Punk Rave

I love these. They sag in the butt/crotch a lot, which is to be expected, but I still love them.

Boots: Demonia

One of the few brands that don’t make my back AND my feet hurt. I love you, Demonia.

Hair: IDGAF Mode

I just wanted it off the back of my neck.